Deciding to get married

*Warning: This is not the post about how we became engaged. We were unofficially engaged for a couple of weeks and this post will tell the story of how we got to that point.



After saying "I love you" our converstations started going into what would happen if we were to get married. It was just hypothetical senerios of what we hoped to do in the next few years and how we would pull that off if we were married. (Things like Brian wanted to return to France, and I wanted to finish school). As the semester started drawing to a close our conversations started getting more specific and we started to talk about if we actually wanted to get married. We decided that we would wait to decide until Valentines Day or so, to give us some more time. I figured that we would stay in Utah for the summer if we were engaged because I had a good job working as a bookkeeper, and if we went anywhere else we would have to both find jobs. So when Brian asked me if I would move to Tennessee for the summer if we were engaged I told him no, but I would go if we were married.



Then heading into reading days Brian says he thinks we should get married and asks me what I think. I had pushed the whole thought out of my mind for the time being because of finals coming up and I thought I had until Valentines Day to decide. So I thought about it over reading days (it probably did not help my scholarly studying), and one night after studying Brian and I went hot tubbing (nothing is better than sitting in warm water than when it is snowy outside), and we talked about it and decided we would get married.



We went home and we had to tell someone, but we didn't want tell everyone until there was a ring. So we told Bree. We went out in the hall as to not alert the rest of my roommates (they did get told the next morning), and Bree started laughing so much that people that were walking down the hall would stop to see what was going on and what was so funny. But we couldn't tell them which led to more laughter from the rest of us. Like I said I told the rest of my roommates the next morning and there was more happiness. Brian told his roommates and there was pretty much indifference. Boys. I called my parents and told them. My dad was in shock for a little bit, but said yes when Brian called him to officially ask for my hand.



Brian and I were trying to not tell everyone that we were getting married and planned on telling the rest of everyone after Christmas break. So after telling those closest to us we tried to rein in the telling of everyone. The problem was that Brian and I were the first ones in each of our families to get married so both of our parents were super excited and couldn't stop telling people. For example my family went to the denist after finals and my parents told the denist and my mom's defense was that we wouldn't see him again until we got married. Both of our parents told just about everyone, I am not sure why I bothered swearing all my roommates to secrecy.